The idea of moving in together before marriage is certainly one of the most controversial topics triggering debates. Some people consider it the most solid way to know their partner better before tying the knot finally. However, there are plenty of social, religious and custom based reasons against living together before marriage.
It is believed by some researchers and family consultants that couples moving in together before marriage are more prone to suffer a failed marriage. The most possible reason for it could be that the commitment towards the marital relationship fades away while living with each other without the marriage. They often indulge in fights that are more violent and frequent.
Common observations on several live-together couples revealed that their relationships are somewhat less likely to transform into a marriage. Even if it does, they are likely to have an unhappy marriage with too many disagreements and differences. They often do not achieve ultimate sexual satisfaction and fall prey to problems like addiction, alcoholism, and depression. In such cases, women often suffer domestic violence. The conflict resolution skills deteriorate during the living together phase which might result in severe ego clash between man and woman.
In many countries, especially in Asian and African continents, the living together relationships are considered disgraceful and contrary to social customs. This could exert an extra mental pressure on couples staying together without marriage. Moreover, in this case, any one of the partners is free to step out of the relationship without as much hassle. This could cause significant emotional turmoil to the other partner. Though there are no legal rules barring cohabitation, in many cases it turns out to be an unsuccessful endeavor.
But couples often have their own good reasons for moving in together before marriage, and in many cases, they are successful. Some of the reasons are as follows:
• Convenience of living and economic expediency come first. Sharing the same apartment, less hassle for cooking, and sharing other day-to-day expenses are important reasons.
• Many couples are scared to enter a long-term relationship like marriage and consider it a legal hassle. Some of them do not have faith of the institution of marriage. For them, living together with another like-minded person is a better option indeed.
• Search for companionship without making any commitment is another vital reason for staying in non-marital live-in relationships. At the end of the day, everyone needs a companion to ward off loneliness. Living together gives an emotional security without additional hassle.
Finally, the decision is based completely on an individual’s own perspective and that perspective as well as the specific people involved will be the true determinants of whether moving in together before marriage is a good idea.